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neverending, but I choose to ignore it :-D

I don't get grief at all really. :o)

like yourself I am blessed in this department! Otherwise I couldn't do it. My problem is I do other stuff as well as the band, and when everything collides at the same time things can get a little tense! Still all of it is my own choice. This the reason that when we are not playing I don't announce that i'm off out see such and such a band much as i would like to!
Thankfully in this band we understand that we do have to keep the home fires burning as it were, and so we do book hols etc no probs as long as it is in advance. I probably do more of that the other members i'm sorry to say!But we still get a good number of gigs in a year.
if someone else in the band has booked off then I try to make the most of it by organising something, day out,camping or whatever.You could do this as well but make out to the missus that you have put your foot down with the band, and told them you want this time off, putting her first etc. This may earn you short term browmie points but the risk in this strategy is that SHE might call upon you to do the same again at a later date!

Other thing i do is put a few quid in a jar after every gig for a day out or towards something that her in doors can benefit from after putting up with the pain! Good luck

Innuendo
p.s before anyone else gets in....yes the pain is me!

blessed here too.. but i know of a singist who gets it bad!!!

I don't get any grief at all. I only gig now on average once a week, which isn't too much. I spend very little on new gear/strings/picks etc so most of my gig money actually goes towards paying the bills at home and running our vehicle.
I don't really go out socially when I'm not playing so I'm always bringing money in (small amounts I admit).
The main thing that suffers though is that we get hardly any quality time together as when I'm not gigging there's still our young kids to look after, eg tonight I'm not gigging so the missus is going out with her mates whilst I watch the kids.
JON

# Posted by Steelfield - 06/11/2009, 10:45 (GMT)

blessed here too.. but i know of a singist who gets it bad!!!

so do i lol!! My other half has come to terms with a once a week practice, and can just about cope with the thought of a once a mth gig. Just!!!!!

Ditto with everyone else really! I do get the odd grumble if i book too many roadtrips during the year but local gigs arent too bad.
My arguement is that I've always done this, long before we even met! However, i do concede that situations do change and now littl'un has appeared I do have to make the extra effort to keep all parties happy... but thats all part of the fun right!! ;D

John

The minister for domestic affairs and finance is very understanding of my " hobby". We have a disabled daughter who requires a lot of care so she knows that this is my way of relieving the stress I have with regard to this. I just wish she could come and see me more often as we cannot seem to get someone to look after Emily at weekends.
I am very blessed that my wife understands.

Best wishes

John

i packed up playing for quite a long time before i met my other half, so when i started playing again she gave me a real hard time about it, however over a period of a few months, she started coming to watch us practice and after a while she started to take a bit of interest in the band from a critical point of view, she doesnt pull any of her punches, now she runs the web site runs the p a, does the posters gets some of the gigs and has become a non playing member of the band. so i am very lucky

I'm single meself, and on the occasions I've had to choose between girl and whichever band I'm with, it's always been band. My guitar has never lied to me, cheated on me, or made me endure witless nights with its family, friends and or colleagues. Couldn't do the grief thing, I'm not built for stress! :)

Frankie

single....proud.....and dont get moaned for gigging/drinking/cavorting etc....oh it's a good life ;o)

She keeps her mouth shut if she knows whats good for her! Too many people under the thumb in this thread.

(Yeah, I'm single :o( No real surprise is it!)

My Ex mrs (or she who must be ignored...lol) never complained when I handed the cash over at the end of the night.....Moaned like F*** before and during....Once she saw the dosh....like a different person...lol

I am blessed with a wife who doubles up as my roadie - LOL.

Me and the missus are joined at the hip and do everything together including running two businesses

Our daughter is grown up now so we have alot of freedom in that respect.

I always say to Anne that she doesn't have to come to the gigs but she's always there,

Bless her cotton socks,

Rick.

Where's Twin Lizzy Roj? Now THERE'S a tale and a half. lmao.

Her who must be ignored is a saint. When I was in my last band she came along to most of the gigs and usually brought 1 or 2 friends along even though she hated the lead guitarist (funny how women are usually good judges of character!). Then when we started the duo she got involved and became admin assistant,pa,booking secretary, call centre operative and tea lady. Along with these dutys she was also my personal cheauffeur after the obligotary aprez gig beer or 2! Warra woman !!!
Maybe thats the answer..get them involved in a non management administration type roll (wouldnt want any spinal tap type probs..lol ). Suppose we are lucky, Its second time around for both of us and our kids are now old enough to be wanting to do their own thing of an evening. And on my nights off?..well...hahem! :o)

@ Robert Redfern "its cos i miss you when youre out playing",

You could always consider giving her a good seeing to when you get home after the gig! Mrs Innuendo is up for anything providing I don't wake her up.(and pull her nightie down when I'done)

innuendo

Hahahahahaha

oh the joys of internet access....If it could roll a cig and pour me a beer that would be life complete....hee hee

I actually left a band because of someones partner. And their lack of balls in dealing with said partner.

@ Mick,

I'm the boss in my house, and I have my wife's permission to say so.

Innuendo

@Mick (Bad Horsie)

Yeah, where is Roj's spin on this??

I lovingly offer half of my kebab when I usually get home.....lol

@ Scott Metalleeka

I rest my case!!Ha ha Kebab is a great word for it lol! And it has 'wood' chortle! going for a lie down now.

Innuendo

sneaking like a trained ninja into the house at 3am after a gig is easy... its the "DADDY ITS TIME TO GO TO THE PARK!!!" at 7am the next morning I often struggle with!! :/
I know exactly who wears the trousers in our house... and she'll be 4 years old next birthday!!

"DADDY ITS TIME TO GO TO THE PARK!!!" at 7am the next morning"

FUCK. THAT. lmao

all these ladys have names, they are worthy of a mention for putting up with our obsessesions, mmm lot of s,es in that word, Anita is great but when we do a local gig i often have to nip back home to pick her up after we set up, a small cross to bear.

Here here Pete. I would like to propose a toast to Lynda my head cook, bottlewasher and personal masseause..luvs ya babe xxxxx
Go on guys..name the lady in your life..promise I wont think yer soft..lol

Preffered this thread when it was sexist, it's all getting too sloppy and luvved up for my liking!

Innuendo

awwwwwwww..go on..show us yer sentimental side..lol

iam very lucky that way, but we dont play that much, twice a month, but this is cause we all want a life too, in other words drinking time !

hubby n me are both in the band so its the babysitters who give us both grief!!!!!!

@ urban bassman
awwwwwwww..go on..show us yer sentimental side..lol

OK Then here goes.............

When I get in bed after a gig, and slip in beside her under the covers, she always rolls over to me, farts and sweetly tells me I smell like shit. Is that ok ?!

Innuendo

see..romance is not dead...lol

Hi Guys......My husband is in The Kicks and just wanted to comment that I love him being in band, first and foremost it's something he loves and secondly he gets paid for it!!! He works shifts so i get to see him little through the week but have no problem whatsoever with him gigging once or 3 times in a weekend as it's his choice. I get to go out every weekend with him if i want to go and usually take some friends with me as well. And yeah ..... i have turned into the gig booker, website builder, poster maker and drinks getter but so what ... I love it really lol

I have nothing to say.

Roj

Ha Ha , Mentioned this before , but my wife just gets pissed off and nags me when we are NOT gigging ! coz im like a bear with a sore head with nowt to do ,i have to give her a sick note if im not out lol

# Posted by Robert Redfern - 06/11/2009, 17:12 (GMT)

no ones mentioned groupies yet.....

Ooooh the lusts of my life
Whats the point in growing old if you can't do it disgracefully?

ha ha

rock on

Although, I must admit, Gina hit the roof the other night when she seen our gig list for next year LOL

I said, chill, we're only doing 3 out of 12 weekend days a month, so plenty of time for her to moan at me for not taking the bins out lol

It's not like we're Riff Raff, or Anthem, or Dyehouse lol

I think I got away with it. I still have 1 bollock :-)

When I was married, the wife encouraged me to do more gigs. Found out she was seeing somone else whilst I was out gigging. She's German, and I thought about a Hitler doesn't like Steve's ex video, but as she's the love child of Adolf and Eva Braun, I doubt it will appear. Single now, and the groupies are great even just to boost your ego. Not taken one up on an offer, yet. Can't wait for the next Darwen gig, with the hottie that wants me to "slide it in" ala Whitesnake!!

I used to sing with Whatever but due to the fact my ex wife wanted me to babysit on fridays or saturdays had to pack it in,now my kids are older they come to watch the guys play and i love that,funny thing is my ex came to a gig once when they were playing and loved it! she said why arnt you in it anymore...

Cos i had to babysit while you were out being a disco dolly she was like "oh err sorry"

My name is CAROLE not the other half (TONY)I am very supportive with the band.If you guys out there try getting your wives to help with the band you my not get as much ear ache.I even let them practice at my home with pa drums and all.ya noisy but what the hell they enjoy it.Its nice to see them loving it.So come on all ya wiveys out there give your guys support not ear ache.

this could get dangerous, imagine all the wags and hubbys of the fair sex performers of nwbs commenting on stuff, just a thought,how many of us sit on nwbs as a couple and do it together, steady on i mean blogging not snogging

@ robert redfern-you just HAD to get me started, didn’t you, bro?????
you’ve all, probably, heard me go on about “rock chick to margaret thatcher"? i call her that for very good reasons-as told-when we met up i had a place in a band, a norton 750 and i'd convinced my boss that, one day, i would make up that humongous deficit in my "flexi-time" hours that i'd accrued through rehearsals/gigging.
first two/three years she's (apparently) happy to go along with this, then, gradually, but, inexorably, the complaints start-“you’re spending too much time with THAT band”! –“You never take me out anymore, you’re always gigging/rehearsing” – (then come out with me, then!!), “you really should get a haircut, my friends (all middle class, suited and booted, green wellie brigade “posh people”, met at the school functions) are always talking about it- I get embarrassed!!”-“that bikes a nuisance; WE(I.e.-YOU!) don’t need a bike and a car. plus it costs too much to run!! “, “we’ll go shopping this weekend to get you some decent clothes. you need some smart trousers, a shirt and a proper jacket instead of the scruffy old leather one!! my mother’s always on at me, saying I’m letting the myself down by not making sure you look alright when you see the family!!” and don’t ever get her started on the “groupies” !! (in the early days- i was stupid and faithful!!)
you catch the drift?-this got worse and worse until we split about seven years later-leaving me with no band, no bike, short hair, a mountain of debt and a wardrobe full of clothes that I hardly ever wore!! I know a great deal about the culture of “house parties”, which are the correct disco’s and restaurants to frequent I(where one may be seen by “the right people” and sundry other posh pursuits. (as far as I’m concerned, it’s all WAYYY too much information!!) and having to start all over again.

ouch !

@ the urban bassman(kev ex minim)- i TOLD him not to get me started, kev!! that's only the half of it- i could go on for another forty comments!! what really p*sses me off about the whole thing is, that for the first two or three years (we actually met at reading!!!) she was like a cat that had got the cream when out on the bike or at gigs!! :-(

Viking Bro, you have my hit a chord or two. I had to get rid of an Arial Leader sport and a 350 Bullet cos 'she who was always right' NEEEDED a pony/horse because she was looked down on by her 'horsey friends for not having one. Best shut mate ehhhh?

Thank god for Rock n Roll and our own special brand of insanity

@ keef-"Thank god for Rock n Roll and our own special brand of insanity"
that's a great big HELL YEAH!! to that, bro!!
-fortunately, i'm with freya now-life is much better in that respect!! (ironically enough, freya and i were - errrrrm-"bedtime buddies"?? just before i met the "scottish spouse"!!!! ) :-)

Think I need a drink :0S

Good Man Kev. Mines a JD !!

Ill get you one at the gig you promised me Keef..lol

Let me take these earplugs out ......wots this blog about ???????

We don`t gig as often as we used to, about 50 gigs last year, enough to keep me de-stressed. My wife Liz is tolerant of it, but doesn`t particularly like it to be honest. It`s rare now for her to come to gigs, mainly because of our three young kids, but also cos she`s been there, seen it,done that etc. for years. Sadly, at home I`m not a rock god, just Daddy.
I think you guys who`s partners love what they do are really lucky, but it`s important to remember that priorities change, especially as you get older.
Rock God is good..
But Daddy is forever.

Luckily my other halfs in the band with me - makes life easier otherwise at the moment ai dont think we'd see each other.

id be out fridays, saturdays, sundays plus rehearsals! oi mr redfern were you referring to me in one of your comments !! are you calling me a potty gob groupie again !! : ) xxx